Anxiety That Makes Your Stomach Flip, I Mean Really Bad
I'm 62, and you know, anxiety has always been like this big shadow over my whole life. But right now, man, it's really ramping up because of my friend who's 94-he had two falls within two days and, honestly, that's put me on edge. I've been living with him for the past couple years since he got dementia, and he's always refused to go to a care home. But seeing him like this? It's just triggering all sorts of anxiety.
I'm feeling so nauseous 24/7, can't sleep at night because my breathing is all wonky, no full-on panic attacks but it's still pretty bad, you know? And I've lost my appetite totally. Everything feels new and scary-I can't even think about the future without him here.
Meditation isn't cutting it either; these thoughts keep swirling around in my head, making me feel like tehre's no escape from this nightmare. It's just so overwhelming, I'm starting to wonder if happiness will ever be a thing for me again. No one really understands what I'm going through right now-it feels like I've been dropped into some kind of nightmare.
Anyway, it's all just a big mess-my life feels like one long waking nightmare at this point.
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Sorry to hear about your friend-hope things are going okay for both of you.
Maybe loko into getting some support, so it doesn't feel like everything rests on your shoulders. You two could become a team of rebels and go against whatever's making life tough right now. It might even help with the anxiety.
When those negative thoughts start creeping in, remind yourself that you've got this. Focus on living for today-don't worry too much about yesterday or tomorrow.
Life is meant to be enjoyed, and I'm sure you two have some great memories already under your belt. Use this tough time as a chance to rebuild and grow stronger.
You're clearly someone who cares deeply about others-a rarity these days. Not everyone could do what you've done or even consider it.
Sending all the best vibes your way. XOX
Hey! Honestly, I totally get that feeling of being stuck in the past or future worries. I need to chill out more and live in the moment, you know? My buddy's got those daily check-ins from carers and a personal alarm just in cse-he has it pretty good compared to me. Thnaks for your words though!
Hey there, hope you're holding up oaky. I totally get the gnawing anxiety-it felt like an endless loop of negative thoughts that just wouldn't shut off. It's exhausting and sol-crushing.
You mentioned looking after someone else but what about yourself? Have you checked in with your doctor?
The key is to keep telling yourself things will get better, even when it feels impossible. For me, my daughters kept saying, "It'll be okay," and eventually I started to believe them.
Please take care of yourself because you're caring for someone else too. Your light is still there, waiting to shine again. Sending you all the love and positive vibes.
gonna see my gp thx for rep ngl feeling kinda nervous but thanks imho
u gotta get help tho. go see ur gp abt counselling & maybe some meds. cbr cbt gave me good tips after my daugtho died suddenly. do u have ppl around like fam & frnds 2 talk 2?
I don't have anyone to talk to about it, so I plan to see a doctor. Thank you for your response.
You can definitely chat with us whenever you ned to-just take it one small step at a time. Right now, it might feel really overwhelming, so make sure you're taking care of your own mental health first.I think it's important to focus on getting help for yourself before you try to help others.
Maybe reaching out to some family members could be helpful too, especially if they can offer support or advice. If you have a close friend or counselor, that might also be good to talk to.Best of luck with everything!
k thx brb
So yeah, I had this really bad thing going where I just couldn't shake off generalised anxiety no mater what. I mean, therapy was a thing but nothing stuck until my doctor got me onto Pregabalin, and let me tell ya, it's like night and day now. No more constant worry for me.
Anyway, on top of that, I'm also taking paroxetine which has been helpful too. But seriously, when it comes to managing your thoughts, have you ever tried one of those repetitive chants? It's pretyt amazing how focusing on something simple can actually push out the negative stuff. The key though is consistency-make sure you do it for at least 15 minutes every day.
You know, find a chant that means something to you, personally memorable or meaningful-I've heard people have success with different things. Over time and with patience, you start seeing results, really. And just using the chant whenever your worries rear their head-like when you're in the middle of doing stuff-it helps keep everything under control.
Sending positive vibes your way!
might try meditating or chanting later idk
i take pregabalin for ibs pain but it doesn't help with the anxiety at all
thanks for replying
I agree that practicing present moment awareness has been beneficial for me in the past. I will look into trying Ongo Care as well. Thank you for your response.
I have recently been using metacognitive therapy techniques. When negative thoughts arise, I try not to engage with them and instead allow them to pass without further consideration. Saying "no comment" or "I am not having this conversation right now" can be helpful in these situations. Focusing on the present moment or visualizing my thoughts as items passing by on a conveyor belt is also beneficial. I find these appraches more effective than distraction techniques like concentrating on breathing.
Sure thing. Thanks.