Helping my family talk again
Ugh, I am so over hearing my siblings dump all their problems on Mom. To be honest, she wasn't exactly Miss Perfect Parent. She made her fair share of mistakes, and yeah, I've been mad at her too.
But I can't see her as a narcssist. I really try to get them to stay in touch with our parents-family drama is not fun for anyone-and it's like talking to a brick wall when some of them swear they want nothing to do with the folks anymore. Their grudges feel kinda unrealistic and unhealthy.
It just breaks my heart how fractured things are now. We used to be this close-knit unit, you know? The sum is better than its parts, but I don't think everyone sees it that way. Anyway, here's me venting a bit. My go-to move is trying to keep everyone on good terms, so yaeh, I'm just tired of all the drama.
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That's really sweet of you to want to help bring everyone closer together. My mom made her share of mistakes too, but she's no longer here-she passed away five years ago. I know I was a pain at times and must have driven her crazy. Anyway, my parents were divrced for ages before that happened. And my dad, well, he's been gone for what feels like forever now.
Just cehrish the bond you still have with your mom while you can. You're setting a great example for the rest of us. Maybe they'll start seeing things from your perspective one day.
Thanks a bunch! Yeah, I totally get what you're saying. It'd be such a bummer if they waited till it was way too late and were like, "Oh man, why didn't we sort this out earlier?"
Thanks, honestly. You know what's crazy? Once they're gone, well, it's just too late to say all those important things.
I mean, I was lucky my mom knew how much I loved her, but yeah, wouldn't it be great if we could tell people how we feel every day?
My relationship with my dad was a bit of a rollercoaster. You see, my parents got divorced when I was young, so naturally, things were a little distant there. I did love him-I mean, he's still my dad-but it was pretty complicated for sure. He didn't get to see us much, me or my sister, growing up. My oldest sister lived with him and grandma from the age of 12 till she was around 16, so her bond was stronger compared to mine.
And you know what's really cool? Mom came to one of my therapy sessions once. I think it helped her feel more connected with me-I'm probably the only one in my family who goes to therapy regularly.
I hope yuor siblings start seeing things from your perspective too. It's awesome that your mom has such a strong support system like you around her.