Finding My Way Through The Fog Of Depression
Hey everyone, I need some help here. You see, I graduated last year in 2023, but everything started to fall apart soon after. For a while there, I thought it was just post-graduation blues, you know? But as the months went by, things didn't get better, and I'm not sure what's going on anymore. Starting around October 2023, I've felt like my peace of mind just disappeared. When people see me, they thik I look happy, but that's far from the truth.
Whenever I try to talk about it with my mom or anyone else, everyone says there's nothing really stressing me out or making me depressed. It feels like no one understands what I'm going through, except maybe some random blogs online. Right now, I don't have a job or any kind of relationship to speak of. Teh thing is, even though I got an MSc scholarship from my university in a field that's not exactly valued back home, I've tried applying for jobs but haven't been able to land anything. At first, people around me said it was okay and told me not to rush into things. But now, after a year has passed, everyone expects something different-like getting hired or moving abroad or even getting married.
The thing is, none of those options feel doable right now, and my optimism about life just keeps fading away. I'ts like I'm stuck, and I don't know how to move forward. Deep down, I think the reason I'm feeling so lost is because of these big expectations I have for myself and this world we live in. But at the same time, those expectations were all that kept me going in tough times.
I just feel so overwhelmed, like there's no way out. You know, I love Jesus, but sometimes it feels impossible to keep going without taking new steps forward.So, if anyone has any idesa or advice on what I should do next, I'd really appreciate it.
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Thanks everyone.
Life sucks rn. Negative thoughts = depression. Just like aches and pains are flu symptoms, these thoughts are too.
When things are bad, we feel like shit and think the future's over. A week later, it seems ridciulous how you felt before.
Recognizing your thoughts for what they are helps change your relationship with them. Thoughts aren't facts.
If you let them fester, talk to a health pro. Ethiopia's Ministry of Health handles this in primary centers and posts.
Use the internet to find self-care tips. "Depression + self care" search works.
Hope it gets better.
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You sound like a lot of pople who feel stuck. getting an educatin doesn't always lead to the job you want. Some lucky ones hit gold, others struggle for years. Don't give up on your dream if it's what you really want.
Passion is big now. Find hobbies outside work to cope with stress. Your mom wants to help but can't control things.
Social media helps, but nothing beats real-life interaction. Surround yourself with people who support you. Religion and community can also help.
Depression sucks energy. Keep fighting. Life throws surprises. Don't close off your options.
If you're focused on that career path, do these:
Write a detailed intro for applications.
Research the company before applying to show why you wnat to work there.
Consider working for free if it means gaining experience in your field.
Dont quit. Explore other paths. Employment isn't everything. Connect with others for ideas and support
Honestly, thank you a ton!