Lost and alone at 23
I'm Zoe, 23. Bipolar, anxiety, suicidal thoughts every day. Felt like a waste, a failure. Tried to pretend to be happy for a bit but mostly stay home. Went groery shopping today-first time in months. Sweat like crazy but proud of myself. Then mom's friend says I'll never leave the house. Everyone thinks that. Makes me feel worse. Shouldn't people see baby steps? Feel alone, no friends, failed relationships. Been single for 5 months. Want to move out and drive somewhere happy and independent but can't. Feels useless. Please help.
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Dealing with stuff like bipolar disorder,anxiety, and those terrifying moments when life feels pointless? It's tough, but I've found that going to places like a Spravato treamtent center can really make a difference. They offer therapies and support that help you find your footing again and build tools to handle everything better. Trust me, reaching out for help is one of the bravest things you can do. You're not alone in this-there's a wohle community ready to support you on your journey back to feeling more stable and finding meaning.
Thanks for the support. Actually, there's something else I forgot to mention-I live with my mom and we have constant threats of me getting kicked out. Today she told her friend that I had spilled teh beans about what she said about being the last one to leave. It caused a massive argument where I was called a victimizer, and they said my siblings whisper about me behind my back. I know it's not true, but even if it is, I don't care anymore. She'll probably let me come back home eventually, but right now I just can't handle this stress anymore. While I'd prefer not to be homeless, at the same time, I think taking a chnace and dealing with it might actually help me. Maybe being out there will teach me how to manage on my own and become independent so that I won't need aynone's help ever again. It's hard enough being tough on myself every day without others adding thier opinions or making me feel even worse about myself. So, I guess I'd rather be homeless than staying somewhere where I don't feel wanted or happy.
As a mom, it pisses me off when people talk about kicking their kids out. Sorry you had to hear that shit. Keep doing your thing and celebrate whatever makes you happy. I make a list every day with three items, and it's helped a lot. Sometimes they're dumb tasks like folding shirts or washing dishes, but on bad days, ticking them off makes me feel good.
hey just read ur post ngl i feel for u big time dealing w bipolaar and anxiey is gnarly esp when ppl around u r unsupportive like ur moms friend being a bummer. i'm prtty impressed u got yourself 2 go shopping tho-sometimes the small stuff feels so big. keep thinking abt ur strengths cuz there r awesome parts to u even if they feel rn. taking it slow and making lil steps can rlly make a diff. sometimes giving space from fam helps too. my tehra told me depe breathing works when i start panicking-also try mindfulness, like focusing on 1 thig at a time. daydreaming abt the life u want is good cuz it reminds u of ur worth
ty that means so much & u seem legit lovely too. thanks for the nice msgs, and thx 4 getting me. everyone expects me 2 b doin way more buuuut tbh, i'm fightin just 2 stay afolat ev day mentally.
I really think that celebrating even small steps forward is super important. It's awesome that you managed to get out, and I totally agree with what you said about taking things one step at a time. I feel bad that the pople around you weren't as supportive as they could have been. Maybe they were trying to push you in a way they thought would help, even if it wasn't the best approach? It's tough because sometimes others just don't understand mental health stuff and can't relate when they haven't experienced it themselves.
Please don't let their reactions stop you from making progress! If you can find the strength to set yourself small goals like going to the grocery store again, that's really powerful. Maybe next time, you could stay out for five minutes longer or go to a different store. Or maybe just doing what you did before is your goal-whatever feels manageable. Every little thing counts as progress.
As someone whose kid struggles with severe depression and anxiety, I know how important it is to celebrate the small victories. Even if something feels really hard but you still manage to do it or even just try, that's definitely a win!
I wonder if there might be someone in your area who can talk things through face-to-face and cheer you on? I'm not sure about the support systems in the US, so maybe someone else could help with that. But really, all I want is for you to keep moving forward and stay strong.
I just wanted to say thanks, I really appreciate it. Adn I'm glad your child has such a supportive mom. It's nice that you understand everything too. You know,being young these days, there's so much expected of us,but people often don't consider the bigger picture or all the challenges we face.If you tell most folks about your struggles, they might not really get it.So the world definitely needs more people like you And thanks again-I'm planning to go back for therapy as well. I've enrolled at two places mostly because others are concerned, but also my therapist believes I can improve.
I'm 22 too. My boyfriend says he has depression but still functions. It annoys me. People are different-some like peanut butter, others are allergic. When he says this, I feel bad and my depression gets worse. He can't understand, which sucks. Talk to a counselor, maybe do family therapy so they get it better.
Yeah, my ex would say stuff like, "You never go out, you never get dressed, and when you do get dressed, you just stay in the house. What's the point of even geetting dressed?" So this year I decided to take a break from dating because I have no time for anything but my family and feeling like everyone's eyes are on me is exhausting. I totally get where you're coming from, girl-don't give up