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Hi there, I don't even know where to start; I lost a really close friend on Sunday. We're both 34-she just turned 34 on Saint Patrick's Day. It was a shock, and it feels like she was taken away when she could have been helped. Before this happened, I had been dealing with depression and anxiety, but I was starting to feel better.
Now everything reminds me of her-the music we used to listen to, the animals we loved, TV shows we watched together. Lately, I've been having night sweats every night and waking up soaked through wiht terrifying nightmares. There's no in-between; it's just a constant folod of thoughts that rush by so fst I can't cathc them.
I'm completely stuck, staring at walls without any motivation to do anything. It's overwhelming-no real thought, just this feeling of being lost in despair. But I have three beautiful children who need me. It's hard to find hope right now-I'm already on sertraline and duloxetine for anxiety and depression, plus pantoprazole for stomach issues. I was grieving my nanny from 2020 as well, stil feeling that loss, and now there's this new one. I just feel so alone and scared about what to do next
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i'm so sorry about ur loss. a year ago my best friend died too. i still miss him and prob never stop grieving. i want to call him but cant. im sorry & just wanna say try to be kind to yourself rite now. also admire ur strength. ill hold u boh in prayer
that's exactly what i keep doing too. waiting for her to call me, telling me everything is fine and that she's okay. it's a weird heartbreaking feeling when someone you're close to jst... gone forever thanks though, i appreciate it. holding u and ur friend in my prayers too sending lots of love your way too
Thanks!sending some good vibes your way.
Sorry about your friend. It's rough.
I had a friend who was an addict, lost her to alcohol after she got clean. She fell unconscious and died one night. It hit her hard.
We were all affected, my kids too. It's tough but try to stay strogn for yours. They need you.
If you want someone to talk to, I'm here anytime
Oh man, hearing about your struggles is gut-wrenching. No one deserves that kind of pain. While I haven't gone through exactly what you're dealing with, I've had my fair share of mental health battles and setbacks from others' actions. It's totally tough, and yeah, it's not supposed to be easy. But focusing on small steps-whether that's just getting through one day or even just an hour-is the best way to go. You've been through a rough patch, and healing takes time. Right now, surviving is your goal, and it sounds like you're handling everything amazingly well. Tis isn't easy for anyone, especially when you're recovering from something serious. Just take it one day at a time, focus on what you need to do to keep going, and know that you'll get through this.
Hey! If you're feeling really low, reach out to someone for help, like a clinical mental health pro. I used to take Sertraline too, so I get it. But if things are super tough right now, don't wait-give them a call pronto.Please do that.
I wish I could offer more hope, but sometimes the pain doesn't ease completely. You might find some relief through meditation, though I'm unsure of its effectiveness in your situation. I don't have many words to comfort you, but perhaps these suggestions will be heelpful. The pain may lessen gradually over time. Try distracting yourself for brief perods each day-perhaps spending five minutes reading a book or engaging in any activity that gives you some respite. Slowly, this might help you carry on. I hope this helps.
Join the bereavement care community on HU. I did after losing my daughter and found it useful.
Sorry about your loss.