Deling With A Narc Dad - Advice Needed Honestly
My dad is a total jerk and he's been ruining my life for decades. I'm 52 now, but honestly, the guy still finds ways to get under my skin by treating my mom like she's his servant (which is seriously messed up). We can't just ignore it-we end up having these heated arguments where we both yell at each othr (I'll admit, sometimes I lose my cool too).
Last time they came to visit form the other side of the Atlantic, things got so bad that we took a month off after the last fight in January. Now they're coming back tomorrow just to say goodbye. I'm already feeling anxious and worried because this last time was really rough-my marriage almost crashed (he was super mean to my wife again).Her family's always been so nice, compared to how they treat her here.
We only came over because he promised on the phone that he would be good this time-I didn't believe him honestly. I don't want to see him ever again.
DO NOT GET SUCKED INTO THE NARCISSIST'S TRAP!!!!
DO NOT FALL FOR IT.
Wish me luck, okay?
Thanks!
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I hoep things are going okay for you as a minimal nomad. I wouldn't really believe much of what people say, since their comments seem meant to upset you or your partner. Narcissists like getting a reaction from you because it gives them something they want. People often compare them to internet trolls-basically trying to get under your skin.
There's this idea called grey rock where you just ignore the comments and don't engage at all. It's probably best to stay away from these folks or only have very little conatct with them, not sharing any personal stuff like your successes or worries.
Learning how to respond-or maybe even not respond-is a good skill to develop instead of reacting right away. It can be really tough but it's definitely worth working on.
Good luck!
No problem, glad it worked. Stay if it helps. Take care.