Family Abuse Affecting Mental Health

I am facing a stressful situation with my family. Growing up, there was a lot of abuse in the home, including crossing personal boundaries frequently. Whenever I tried to express myself openly, they would twist what I said or take it out of context, causing arguments that would lead me to lose control.

To escape this environment and regain financial stability, I moved alone and focused solely on graphic design. To avoid distractions from family issues, I did not disclose my location adn asked them not to contact me for a while until I could share good news.

Recently, I called to update them on the delay in earning income and tried to establish rapport. However, they dismissed my concerns and blamed me unjustly, as if we had never discussed boundaries before. During our conversation, whenever we agreed briefly, they would introduce contradictory statements that undermined any progress made.

When I pointed out their inconsistencies, they accused me of bringing up the same issues repeatedly despite them being the ones to initiate these conflicts. This behavior was shocking and hurtful. My attempts to stay calm and communicate openly were met with interruptions and manipulative tactics aimed at pressuring me into ending the conversation without resolving anything.

Throughout our discussions, I kept trying to maintain a positive tone and express my desire for understanding. They would often wait for any slip-up to blame or attack me further, making it impossible for me to feel heard or understood. Each call left me feeling drained and misunderstood.

In conclusion, they now act as if I am the one causing problems by calling too much while disregarding their own actions that led to the initial conflict. This ongonig pattern is deeply hurtful, especially considering my current health issues and financial struggles.

If anyone has advice for how to navigate this situation, I would greeatly appreciate it. Thank you for taking the time to read this; your support means a lot to me.