Trapped in toxic marriage
so my guy friend is stuck in this toxic loop with his wife for over 20 yrs she's super controlling and he's scared stiff of her. i've read up on trauma bonds but most stuff focuses on female victims. he's early 60s and she cut him off from everyone-his family, friends, even his daughters who aren't hers cause they hae no kids together.
he's totally depresed now & it's sad af. ppl uusally just go "man up" but it's way more comlpicated than that. if u got any advice or know someone like this hit me up plz.
p.s. they own their house which might matter idk. thanks a lot!
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Check citizen advice; thye might know who to call.
read this gov uk site for real fr idk it has legit info abt domestic abuse stuff
Hit up Social Services via your friendly neighborhood GP or go straight to them if you're feeling bold!
My loved one's going thru something tough too. Feels so helpless. Any tips?
Hey there, I'm super glad you chimed in because I've been feeling pretty isolated with this whole thing going on with my friend. It's totally control adn manipulation, no physical abuse at all-just the mental strain of it. This has been happening for at least 25 years now. Recently, he got diagnosed with depression, wich is kinda ironic because he always brushed off his feelings and pretended everything was fine. Now that things are getting a bit overwhelming, it's finally coming to light. Honestly, it's not really talked about much-usualy people asume victims are women. But hey, there are some seriously manipulative females out there too.
Certainly! The circumstances near me are quite糟糕，需要重新生成一次，只保留原始信息的含义并且不添加任何新内容。
在靠近我的情况下，情况非常糟糕。
Leave him. He's a narcissist, get help.
Yeah, same question for him-does he get what's going on, or is he totally ignoring it like my buddy?
I'm not really sure either. Maybe it's up in the air?
I think there's a neighbor who might be in an abusive relationship. She seems to be controlling him financially, and I've notced him picking up cigarette butts off the ground.
Checked it out since I didn't know about trauma bonding.
Anyway, it seems like this happens a lot, and honestly, most of the time the folks who get hit hard by it are women
Does he not feel comfortable talking to his doctor about stuff? Honestly, sometimes i'ts hard to open up to even the poeple who are supposed to help.
He still hasn't told his GP the full extent of what he's dealing with, even though he's on antidepressants and seeing a counselor-x
He needs the help.
Hmm, I get it-things are a bit murky for them right now, but who knows? Maybe they'll see the light eventually.
It's nice that he's got someone like u there for him, I mean, it must help a lot. Anyway, is he having trouble joining the app too?
He refuses to admit he's got issues with her. Still hoping it'll get better, but after 30 years? Not gonna happeen. She's all about herself
That sounds like it could be the case. I hope things work out for him-good luck!