Do you feel used at home?
I feel used when my parents ask me to help. My brothr gets away with everything cause he's male. Mom feels bad for him but makes me feel guilty if I don't help. Even if I do, she still dumps on me if I need to leave. So I don't help at all because either way, I get blamed. But then I feel sad and guilty cuz she does it all by herself. And wehn I try to help, she just vents her anger. They give more importance to my brother just 'cause he's a boy. Is this how it is in other homes too? Should I have helped anyway despite that?
Sorry if this offended anyone.
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Just wear headphones and shut her out.
I think maybe I shouldn't because it might just upset her more and continue those annoying comments.
I think yes, in some families in the Indian subcontinent, there's still a pretty patriarchal setup. I get where you're coming from with your concerns, and I agree that it's not ideal. But, I guess it might be tough to change how your parents see things right now. It could help if you focus on working alongside your mom rather than worrying about your brother and the way he's treated. Since he won't really benefit from doing those household chores, there's no harm in you stepping up.