Feeling connected to my community rocks
Hey there, everyone! Just popping in to say hi-I kinda feel like I found a cozy corner here already, which is pretty neat. Still struggling with some stuff from my childhood that left me feeling pretty insecure and doubtful of the world.
I got married once because someone made me feel safe and tried to help fix all those issues... but we ended up splitting up. Now? I've moved back home to be closer to the folks, trying to sort through everything as I spend more time with them.
Just wanted to give a little intro and say thanks for making me feel like part of the group.
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sounds rly similar tho scarlet. hope it goes well. i've been workng on stuff but only with a therapist, no fam help. cant just tell my folks how much they hurt me & expect them to listen. i'm older, wanna try making peace while there's still time cus they're in their 80s.
ty. i see my parennts weekly but keep it chill. they r not into emotions tho. my therapist said to cut them off cus they trigger me, but no way. fam is important and u gotta deal with the bad too. hope u and ur peeps r doing ok
Well done.
Hi there,
I totally get where you're coming from with that messy childhood full of emotional neglect and a traumatic divorce where I felt lkie a chess piece. Still wrestling with low self-esteem, worthiness issues, and all kinds of insecurity. I decided to go rogue and never tied the knot or had kids-I just can't handle big commitments without fearing abandonment. Now here I am, pretty much isolated with social anxiety through the roof. Want friends badly but scared out of my mind of getting hurt aain.
Hearing you're working on your relationship with your parents feels good. We really do hvae a limited time to figure things out. Sadly,my mom is no longer around. My dad and I try our best to talk, but it's tough. So many triggers frrom the past sneak up when I least expect them. Keep pushing as long as you feel like you're making progress-I'm cheering for you! Good luck with everything.
My parents really should've split up, but they're still at each other's throats like it's some never-ending soap opera. And because of that, I decided not to bring kids into the mix myself. Looking back, taking care of my sibling when we were both super young wasn't exactly a picnic-I ended up feeling pretty bitter about it all. Now I have two nieces, and watching them go through similar stuff just makes me feel exhausted and frustrated. Every time I visit, I'm so drained by the end that I barely manage to keep a smile on my face. It's like they pick up on how crappy I feel and make me more miserable. So these days, I don't talk much about my own feelings anymore because it just leaves everyone down in the dumps. Anyway, thanks for understanding all of this-it's been really helpful.
You know someone you can vent to, right?