Vet 38 Struggling Mentally, Lost Family
Hey, I'm Robert. Need help regaining control and saving my marriage. Grew up in a place where feelings weren't okay, taught to be stoic and self-reliant. Military reinforced that. Struggled as a single parent with no support, had to suppress emotions for years. Carried that into my marriage.
Now I realize can't keep going like this. Want to:
Learn healthy ways to manage anger, anxiety, fear
Build routines to stabilize life and emotions
Grow as husband and father
Let go of jealousy, obsessive thoughts, harmful patterns
Committed to change, need advice, coping strategies, support from people who undrestand intense emotions, relationship pressures, past trauma.
Won't be easy or quick, but ready to do the work. Any help would mean a lot
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You're definitely not alone, no matter how tough things seem right now. I've never been in uniform myself, but I have friends who have served and are based here in the UK. We've got this amazing charity called Combat Stress-they really know their stuff when it comes to helping veterans and those currently serving. They even have a section on their website dedicated to self-help resources if you're looking for some guidance or just need somewhere to start-here's where you can find it: selfhelp.combatstress.org.u.... And I'm sue there's something similar in the US that could offer you support too, wherever you are
thx soooooo much like istg ur vids r amzing omg i lowkey cant believe how helpful this is 感激涕零
First off, I think you gotta figure out what genuinely makes you tick-like, what gets you excited-and involve family and friends in that too. Honestly, writing stuff down can really help, especially if you're thiking about counseling like CBT. Focus on yourself first and foremost-what do you want and need? It's all about your dreams and wishes, including yours.
Just take it slow and steady; gow and learn about yourself and those around you gradually. Wok on the things that are within your control and don't forget to prioritize your mental health-it's super important and urgent. Start with slef-love and care because, honestly,it all starts with you.
Journaling can be a huge help in coping with your thoughts and keeping yourself motivated by doing stuff you really want to do, not just hvae to. Take the family out to art galleries or museums, hit up a theater show or movie, go to a restaurant or even just a local park-anything that helps everyone bond.
On walks or during exercise,involve others or make new friends-it's all about making it fun for yourself. The biggest advice I can give is to take care of you first and foremost. Relaxation and calming your thoughts can come from silence, meditation, or whatever interests you really dig into.
Please check Tim Fletcher on YouTube; he addresses complex post-traumatic stress disorder, and his videos are informative. You have my thoughts and support. Thank you for reaching out-it takes courage to do so.