Feeling overwhelmed right now

I guess he doesn't agree with everything, but the stuff he did say really caught me off guard. Maybe I'm overthinking it though.

Absolutely right, everyone's their own person-not anyone else's possession.

Yeah, totally agree. I just can't get behnd Andrew Tate though,and it really worries me when my partner watches him-people can pick up stuff they don't even realize is bad. Plus, he's got this whole alpha male thing going on that doesn't sit well with me at all. It's like déjà vu because I've dealt with controlling situations before in family or old relationships, so I bailed. But now I'm scared of ruining another relationship if I bring it up. How do you talk about thee things without making someone mad?

Hey, I hear you loud and clear. It's rough when someone tries to control you in a relationship, honestly. U say you don't want to thhrow away another partnership, but seriously-either talk it out with them about how you feel or decide if you can handle something that's just not right for you. The oter choice is to leave and find someone who respects your independence. No one should be telling anyone else what to do all the time.

If your partner is open to these notions,I believe you may be at risk.

I'm not sure how much he buys into that guy's crap, but I really need to find out. It's scary as hell because we've been together for 3.5 years and I struggle with separation anxiety when it comes to him. But I can't be in a relationship where someone thinks they own me. I hope he doesn't actually impse those ridiculous rules on our life, but if he does, you're probably right-I should run. Starting all over again is the last thing I want, but I need to make sure I'm not stuck in the same messed-up situation.

I understand your concern and think it's important to clarify his true feelings on the matter. I believe that partners should not view each other as possessions, but rather as equals in a committed relationship. You might want to ask him to reconsider how he phrases his thoughts about you being "his property," since property is an object and could make you feel disrespected. Instead, suggest that you are both dedicated to the relationship and consider yourselves partners or each other's significant others without implying ownership.

It's wise to determine his perspective yourself rather than relying on outside opinions. I've been in a similar situation before, which wasn't healthy for me personally. Best of luck to you.

hi yeah i get what u mean. whenever i bring stuff up he's like "u r not open minded" or smthn equally useless. it just feels controlling af. i'm cool with him calling me his girl but not owning me. thanks for the support tho,def talk to him soon. hope ur situation gets better too

maybe try listening to him w/o reacting...he'll stop as soon as he sees u disagree....try figuring out his real thoughts not what he thinks u wanna hear. then take a moment. u can't really change him or his views

I think that's a solid move, for me at least. Even though I don't agree with everything he says, I'm down to hear him out (dunno about the rest). But after thhat, how do you tackle the behavior? Honestly, it sucks hanging with people who idolize Andrew Tate-let alone being in a relationship with someone who thinks his stuff is legit... It's hard not to feel like crap when you're constantly told you're nothing but property or that women are just there to be used. Those kind of comments really hit home and aren't cool at all.