Just Not Feeling Right Honestly Anyway
So,my boyfriend and I have had our share of ups and downs, you know what I mean? But lately, things have been looking up, honestly. Anyway, I've been feeling pretty off-limits lately. Like, when he's around everything's chill, but as soon as we're apart, I feel like a ghost or something-I don't even know how to describe it. It feels like I need to be doing something important, and if I'm not with him, my head just gets all fuzzy.
He's definitely not the most sympathetic guy out there-he's who he is-but he tries his best. When I mentioned thiis whole feeling off thing to him, he was like "it's okay," but that doesn't really help me figure it out. I don't know if it's because I'm just missing him super hard or if it could be separation anxiety or what. Any thoughts on how to handle this?
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Definitely look into co-dependency sutff-see if it matches how you're feeling honestly.
Yeah, totally getscha. So, about that codependency thing-any tips out there? It's a bit of an occasional blip for me, but when it hits, it's pretty annoying. Any thoughts would be super helpful!
Got any tips? Just need something to try.
Try doing stuff alone sometimes. Walks, movies, shopping. Lose yourself as an individual in relationships. I've been married 41 years. My daughter says get a will. We're one unit now.
Oh gosh,I've been thinking about this for ages, you know? Like, is being super co-dependent really okay or not? It's one of those things where you hear people talk abt it and wonder if they're talking about yourself. My boyfriend brought it up lat year, he said something along the lines of me being too dependent on him, which made me think a lot. I mean, is it ever just fine to be that way with someone? Or is it always sen as problematic?
I'm not really sure how to respond. Maybe if something feels too overwhelming, it might affect your ability to take cae of yourself on your own. I think it could be helpful to talk about it with your dctor or therapist. They're probably in the best position to help you figure things out.
Thanks. Bring it up at your next appointment.