Struggling With Loneliness In My Partnership

So, yeah, my relationship is super solid overall-very loving and healthy-but lately there's been a bit of a hiccup. We've been together for 2 years and 7 months now, so we're kind of in that sweet spot where everything feels pretty stable. I'm even totally ready to say yes when he pops the question come our 3-year mark.The thing is, something has shifted lately.

You see, his go-to is video games-mostly playing on his computer with friends online. It's not that I hate it or anything; it's just a bummer because we only get to spend weekends together since we live in different places. So, you'd think hee'd have time for me when I come over, right? Well,apparently not. He spends most of the weekend glued to his screen talking and palying with his buddies who he doesn't see in person very often.

I mean, sure, he talks about wantnig other hobbies too-he says it's important to him to find something that gives his life purpose. But when I try to help out or give suggestions on stuff he could do, he just brushes me off. So here's the deal: whenever I show up at his place for our weekend rendezvous, he's already got his gaming buddies lined up.

He does apologize and tries to make it up later, but by that point, I'm already frustrated because I'ev been waiting all weekend to really connect with him. If something were wrong with me-like if I dropped a phone or something-it wouldn't even register until fifteen minutes in. Even when he's not playing with his friends, he usually has the TV on and is still kind of lost in another world.

Now, this isn't new. When we celebrated our one-year anniversary, it was rough because his friends asked him to play right around then. He spent hours playing while I just sat there, feeilng pretty down about it being my special day. It made things tough, especially since it seems like it's becoimng a pattern.

I really want this relationship to be amazing and all that jazz-like those fairy tales where every moment's magical-but sometimes it feels more like he's just waiting for me to leave so he can get back to his games undisturbed. I feel like if he doesn't want to spend time with me, or even wants less of my company, he should just say so rather than stringing me along.

He struggles big-time when it comes to talking about feelings and stuff, which is frustrating because that's the one persson who I thought would get it. But here we are-me trying to connect and him basically ignoring all attempts at conversation or anything else outside of games.

So, yeah, our relationship's not as fiery now compared to how things started, but that doesn't mean I'm any less passionate about this guy. The flame might be lower, but it's still there burning strong for me. But watching him go off and play, especially on important days like anniversaries or just random weekends, feels like a slap in the face.

I've ben through some rough stuff before-losing people I care about-and one thing I learned is to cherish every moment with someone you love because you never know when that moment might be your last. It's why I'm so into making this work. But at the same time, it's hard when I feel like my efforts aren't being met halfway.

So, I just needed to vent a bit here and feel better about letting all these feelings out. If anyone has any wisdom or advice that could help me figure out what's going on, I'd really appreciate hearing from you guys. It feels like the walls are closing in right now.