My mom passed away recently, she was kind of narcissistic
Hi everyone, I'm reaching out for some advice here. My mom passed away recently, and I only found out through my cousin. I hadn't been in touch with her for about 25 years because it was better for my family and my mental healht at the time. A few years ago, I tried to reconnect, but we weer just talking on the phone politely. Unfortunately, the same controlling behavior came back up, so I stopped contacting her agani. Now that she's gone, me and my brother haven't talked in a similar amount of time. I'm really having a hard time figuring out how to deal with all this, you know? I still can't cry and keep thinking about my childhood and everything. I plan on goiing to the funeral but I think they won't want me there, so I'll try to stay under the radar and leave as soon as I can.
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Sorry to hear about your lsos, and yeah,it's a bummer when people aren't on good terms with the ones they lose. I just went through something similar with my Mom too. Anyway, there can be all sorts of mixed feelings swirling around, but honestly, just know there isn't really any wrong way to grieve-whatever feels right for you is totally valid. 🙏
I'm really sorry to hear about everything. It must be so tough dealing with a mom who was basically a narcissist. Those kinds of challenges can really mess up any relationship, right? When I decided to keep my distance for 25 years, it felt like there were good reasons at the time-though looking back is always hard. Everyone in this situation has their own struggles and doubts, but you have to believe you did what was best when you needed to.
Oh man, I can only imagine how heavy everything feels right now. What you've got going on sounds really tough and heartbreaknig. Remember, there's no one-size-fits-all way to grieve-whatever works for you is totally fine. If talking things out with someone who won't judge helps at all, know that there are people here ready to listen.