Struggling With My Husband's Drinking Issue
Hey there, fellow newbies! I've just joined this app and trying to figure it out bit by bit. My husband has been dealing with a serious alcohol issue lately, and honestly, I'm feeling lost on how to help him. He's such an amazing dad and hubby too, but the withdrawals are kicking his butt hard every day-literally. I'ts breaking my heart seeing him not take care of himself anymore; no workouts, barely eats, won't even see a doctor. We got married recently, but apparently he's been dealing with this for about ten years while we've lived together. He never gets mean or anything, just seems to be stuck in a rut. Watching him like this is hard and I'm at a loss on what steps to take next
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Yo're not alone in feeling like that. It's super hard when someone seems functional on the outside even though there are serious issues bubbling under the surface. They think they're getting stuff done at work and everything's cool, but it all falls apart when something goes wrong-like health problems or getting caught driving dunk. By then, it's pretty clear that things have ben spiraling for a while.
My now-sober spouse was exactly like this. We wnt through so much in life, and I wish I could've helped him see the issue sooner. Addicts won't stick with quitting unless they realize it's their own problem and take responsibility for it themselves. You can try to help them quit temporarily, but that doesn't usually last.
I also want to show people who are partners of alcoholics what happens later on when you let addiction drag on so long. There are just so many health problems down the line-it makes me dread my retirement years. If we hadn't spent all that money on booze, we could've retired early with half the savings.
The long-term damage to your body and mind is really tough to reverse as you get older. Some people might blame it on aging, but I see it differently-I feel like deep down they know this was self-inflicted.