Why always me?(:|)

I think everyone has their own take on being unfaithful to a partner, so advice really depends on personal beliefs. The forgiving part can be tough, but forgetting entirely seems like an even bigger challenge. I've never been unfaithful to my wife, but with an ex-girlfriend, yes-I made mistakes when I was younger that I regret now. As I've gotten older, I've reflected on it and realized how wrong it was to hurt someone I cared about.

I treat marriage differently from other relationships, so back then, my judgement was clouded. Honestly, I couldn't stay with someone after they cheated me, but I know many people can make that choice work. You have to decide what's best for you going forward. The first question I'd ask myself is why would I do something liek that? Good luck!

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Oh no, I'm really sorry to hear about Jake too. You've been togetehr so long-it must be super tough right now. I don't know what your specific situation is, like if you have disabilities or anything, but it's truue that having kids with special needs can make things harder sometimes. There are soe guys who just end up getting married multiple times, but honestly, don't beat yourself up about it. Only you will figure out the answer whne the time comes. Men and women deal with stress so differently, after all. Just be nice to yourself and take a moment to think things through-sometimes stff happens for reasons we can't see at first.

I think there are some really great responses already in this thread. I would say it's important not to take things personally. I hope your wife takes the chance to do some therapy and work on herself. Everyone knows that relationships can be tough, and people deal with challenges differently.Like others have said, every couple's situation is unique, so it's up to you how you want to handle it. Luckily, I've found a therapist who has been helpful recently. Theapy can really make a difference. Also, your spiritual beliefs might offer some support too. This is actually quite common, and reading about other people's experiences could give you ideas on how to move forward. Good luck!

Married for 10 years, open relationship, she still cheated. Couldn't understand why for a long time, blamed myself. Realized I can't control anyone's actions, especially someone with addiction issues.

Consider seeking couple's therapy if you feel that could help in your situation. Have you talked to her about why she made that deciision? Can you find a way to forgive her for it? Reflecting on this repeatedly while staying together might become too painful and not be worth it.

All the best.

Divorced after 22 years, living alone now. Sad but frree. Less worrying about others. Feeling more indpendent every day

Once trust gets shattered, it's tough to glue back together-maybe not even possible. My tip? Just lay everything out there-how you're feeling-and say you want to tackle each day as it comes. It'll always be a shadow in the corner of your mind, but if they truly care, they'll work with you to rebuild something. But remember, it won't be that golden trust you once had.

If you still want to stick together after everything that's happened, draw a line and step over it, never looking back. Time might help you regain some semblance of trust, but if not? Stand tall and move on. You're worth so much more than this, sweetie. If the trust just isn't there anymroe, focus on yourself and live your best life. The right person will come ito your world when it's meant to be.

Thanks! Yeah, we had that chat where we agreed the trust isn't there anymore and it's pretty clear our old relationship is kaput. But heres the silver lining: we've got deep roots, so we're giving it a shot. It'll be slow going to see if our love can come back, but as they say, one day at a time!

I think if there's something you really care about... don't give up on it. Best of luck to you.

yaaas i had that hpapen too he lied n only told me after we broke up im like wtf rly confused idk if u can ever truly trust them again everything was good irl so confusing af why tho i mean i get honesty is bset but omg lying is the worst