Parent Of Teens Joining Forum

not a parent but gonna share to help spread the word <3 hugs back 🫂

Thank you for your support. I hope there are other parents willing to share their experiences here. Despite the active membership, discussions haven't been very lively lately.

I attended my daughter's high school graduation this week and also went to an eighth-grade graduation. It's been a busy week. My middle child will start working after finishing high school; she secured a job in food service. We've been encouraging her to mature and take on more responsibilities, but she's been resistant so far. She still hasn't gotten her driver's license even though she's almost 18 years old.

Got mine in my 30s too. Relatable

I was looking forward to getting mine as well. She received her permit this week, though she did so unwillingly.

I'm totally a late bloomer-honestly, it's been a wild ride, hehe. So glad she's embracing her newfound freedom though-does she really love it?

good q tho. i havent taught her yet. my hubby will start this weekend. im kinda scared to ride with her at first but il'l help once she gets a bit better.

whyd u wait so long? my daugther is really nervous too, we r actually puushing bc it's hard living w/o driving these days

Take her to a quiet or abandoned parking lot. That's what my mother suggested.

Sure thing, take her to some empty parking lot. That's where I learned too-my mom was all about the calm spots <3 Fear is all you need, right? LOL

Got a 5-year-old but my 13-year-old sister lives here. She neeeds structure but hates feeling controlled. Giving her choices helps, even small ones. Try not to overreact when she's off. Some das it's rough, others we laugh like buddies

I really appreciate you sharing your experience here. I can totally understand what you're going through with your sister. Maybe you could tell me how you set boundaries for her? My daughter has autism and ADHD, too, and she's almost 15. I's tough figuring out which behaviors stem from the new autsim diagnosis and which are just typical teenage stuff. She really needs more structure in her life, but it feels like I'm always on the opposing side when trying to implement that.

On a brighter note, we do have our good days mixed with the bad ones. Sometimes it seems like nobody gets her as much as I try to. It's heartbreaking because there are times she'd rather not be around me at all.

How are things going with the teenagers this summer? One piece of advice I would offer is to help them develop fundamental skills in managing their personal finances.

Summer's been a real rollercoaster around here. We've had our share of good and bad moments, plus we've been super busy.

Just saw your message, sorry it took me ages to reply. My notifications got stuffed up, you know how that goes.

As for my kids, I'm hoping they'll be okay with finances since I've been drilling budgeting into them forever. It's pretty funny seeing how each of them manages their money differently-in real life and on the spending front too. Actually, the little one turns out to be the most responsible when it comes to cash! Go figure.

No worries about the delay! It's actually perfect timing because my ex and I are dealing with some teenage drama right now. Our son is entering his lat year of high school, and my ex has finally decided to cut him off financially once he turns 18-it's gonna be quite an adventure!

I believe yur kids haviing financial literacy will really benefit them in the long run! Speaking of which, I haven't talked to our son yet about this new situation, but I plan on catching up with him sometime this week.

By the way, I checked out the conversation thread you mentioned earlier. It's true; boundaries are crucial. For instance, if a kid forgets to turn off a light when they leave a room, especially when it's just them there, I'd call out and remind them gently. If that doesn't work, I'll sennd a text message asking them to shut the light off right away. And if they don't reply within a few minutes, I'll give them a quick phone call. As a last resort, I might even knock on their door.

So, when's school starting this year? have everyone got all their supplies sorted out yet?

This sonds like quite the challenge. When someone's used to a certain lifestyle, it can definitely make things harder.

My oldest has been out and about in the world since he left home.He still enjoys vacations like we do but manages his money well enough. But our second one, the 18-year-old, is heading out real soon. He's kind of grown up fast-not by choice though. Got himself a part-time job and begrudgingly got a permit too. We offered to help with a vehicle if he needs it for housing-probably going to be a van since he might not have anywhere else to stay. This kid is the total opposite of me when it comes to spending money, so he'll need to learn quickly.

He knows he has to move out but we'er trying to make sure he gets his license first. He might even take the test today. School started yesterday and I got all the supplies sorted for now-though maybe we should think about winter clothes soon.

I sometimes struggle with follow-through because I get distracted easily. My youngest just started texting me, which is a big step since she often doesn't have her phone on her. She hates that it's locked down with parental controls, but I'll keep trying. Texting seems to be the way to go these days, especially for my little one.

Here's hoping things work out well for your 18-year-old over the long run. I hear a lot about parents supporting their adult kids for ages-and then facing issues when they hit retirement age. Do your kid have any plans or a job lined up yet?

thanks for sharing! ur oldest launched?? that's so awesome rly. i bet u and ur husband are super proud.

it's funny, i have a few nieces/nephews who r like almost 40 but cuz i was outta touch with my sibs for a bit, i missed seeing them in their late teens/early twenties. ur story about ur kids sounds so fresh n exciting.

btw before the "hammer" hit my son he had colelge plans. he prob still will go but his expectations r def diff now (his sis is startin her junior yr).

i'll be curious to see how ur daughter takes to texting. yea what u said, texting seems like their main way 2 comm.

u giv such a smart approach for ur son getting a license: "we offered 2 help with a car, prolly a van jus in case." - rly smart.

gad u shared all this. kinda think it'd be cool if there was some way to highlight teen issues on 7cups hmm.

thx for the upvote lol

did ur 18yo get his license? r u still thinkin abt that van plan?

ur daughter doin better with texts tho?

so my son and his mom have been makin progress after my last post. turns out his summer schedule was really stressful, he was hurt from track and had lots of stuff for college.

also havin some med issues adding to the stress but we r coping

really likke ur idea abt a space for paretns of teens. saw that post on supporting youth too. gonna check it out and see if i can add sumthin

hope evrything else is goin well 4 u

Hey, the 18-year-old is still around and picking up some shifts. Sorry if I'm super brief; I'm kind of tied up with my phone right now. Good to hear things are looking better over there though! Driving around today but haven't got a car yet. Think we should have a family chat soon-get everyone on the same page with my husband and the kid. Thanks for keeeping this alive, honestly. I'll try to pop in more often and catch up.

Hey
Busy time, I know. Just saying hi and hoping to talk soon. November was rough. Just getting back into it on 7Cups. Hope everything's good with you.

Hey there, I hope things got a bit better for you after November being tough. Maybe you need someone to chat with? The holidays can be pretty challenging sometimes. For me, I had surgery before Thanksgiving and anther one coming up in about a week. So my kids are going to have to step up and help take care of their mom this holiday season.

Oh yeah, having family around during those times can really make things easier when dealing with medical stuff. Anyway, I thought I'd mention something-I tagged you for a Pen Pal Chat if that works for you. Just let me know if there are any issues getting to it.

By the way, holidays aren't as hectic for us now since my partner and I got married in October-it's official, she's my wife! We knid of have an alternative take on this time of year, more like a ltitle bit of a cynical view really. But hey, life is all about perspective, right?

Anyway, hope to see you ovre at the Pen Pal Chat soon!