Personal issues and looking backwards
I am new here, so please excuse me if this isn't the right place for such thoughts. I need to express my frustrations.
I have severe attachment issues with my boyfriend, and we are currently in a serious argument. The thought of losing him feels unbearable, which has left me feeling unwell all day.
Recently, I learned about glass child syndrome, where siblings who care for chronically ill or special needs children often face neglect themselves and take on adult responsibilities to support their sibling.
While my brother wasn't sick, he needed significant care due to his autism. Growing up, I was severely neglected as my mother favored him and allowed him to fight with me when he wanted, since I would retaliate. She thought it was just normal behavior between siblings.
The symptoms of glass child syndrome include taking on a caretaker role and suppressing one's emotions to avoid causing stress. This resonates with me because that's what I'm struggling with in my relationship-opening up about my struggles with him.
I hope our relationship can endure this difficult time, but I said hurtful things I can't take back, and I fear he might find love elsewhere. It's a painful thought, so any reassurance would be appreciated, even if it doesn't work out well in the end.
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i've been to therapy like three times, but honestly, every time I start feeling better, my mom pulls me out. She's like, "You're all good now, no need for that stuff!" But seriously, I just moved out on my own and once I get my photo ID, I'm gonna set up some sessions permanently-no one stopping me this time!
thats good! i hope u find a therapist who helps u as much as mines doees <3
I hope so too. Thank you for sharing your experience; it was helpful.
Wow, you really are a super resilient lady! (I mean it!)
I am an only child, but I have dealt with similar experiences as a caretaker for my disabled mother. The attachment issues can indeed be very challenging and emotionally taxing. While it may feel difficult and complex at times, remember that you are not alone in this situation, nor are your feelings irrational. Seeking help through therapy has been beneficial for me-have you considered trying it? It could offer significant support.